Parents and teenagers!

Parents are very prone to accept the prevailing parenting ideologies, usually that does make sense, Right? Given the circumstances humans have always adapted from cultures.

Why I choose to write this ? Recently a friend of mine commented she practically has a 100% transparent relationship with her parents. This not only left me befuddled , it marked the course of my further research,

Can such a crystal clear relationship with parents is possible? Specially when we talk about our Indian society, where dichotomy (what parents know and what is for real) always raises its bar , when it comes to teenage- parents relationship.

Hereby I am talking about  very simple, middle class Indian families!  Not the fairy tallish 'janne tu ya janne naa' types where parents are such an epitome of understanding that you wanna trade place with Genelia! ( this only being a secondary reason if you are a die hard Imran fan!)

What my problem is, Are we teens ready to share our every problem with our parents?

Are our parents ready to hear out our every problem without being highly prejudiced and judgmental?

I had a friend who was quite honest about her relationship with her boyfriend, from an early start….her parents not only supported the newly smitten high school lovers; facilitated their weekly dates at home…(quite an American picturesque ) after they broke up, girl was escorted by her mother, all the waivers were deposited back into the age old bank of 'right parenting!'  it was an unmitigated disaster, informing your parents who on earth she was dating…unfair it may sound but what was her mother thinking? A tenth grader will marry the first guy she was infatuated with? Aren't we all aware how short lived this thing is?

Most arguments whether related to talking to that 'guy' your parents think of as suspicious,  a bit stretched outing  with friend, overspending (which I do think parents have complete right to control!), major career decisions (which should be your final decision…),  never seem to loosen up! Its like a cowboys v/s alien war!

We live in a country where 'dating' does not exist for teenagers, partially exist for early twenties  and by the time you are stable enough to dive into really knowing someone for life, you are already in cue of choosing girls from a bundle of snaps or showing yourself to the probable in-laws! (sparing the matrimonial sites or newspapers!)

What I am stressing is if you are a teen, in a relationship or for life's sake just dating! Can you really make your parents your eternal confidant?  I know  lots n lots of teenagers in bliss with their clandestine relationship, their parents are in dark, (obviously! That’s the only reason they are still breathing or facebooking!)  but as for this generation I don't see any spirit of disclosure any sooner! Keep hiding, keep dating n yeah keep loving until the point you are caught, broken up or worse married to someone else! (bloody caste n religion matters...)

bend it like Beckham ji :)