Identity Dilemmas

I never thought I would be giving this any thought, as far as religious issues go, I am happy to call myself Atheist. May be that might be a strong word, let's say not buying into the whole bending over tradition thing. Spirituality is way different.

There are approximate 270 religious groups in the world, not only is being born into one of them is random, every main element of your life is just random, for instance your gender (X or Y chromosome), The country you are born to, your immediate family, all random. 

Now consider other event in your life, your career choice, kinda chosen for you (scope, parents, society, money). Meeting someone you might assume for soul-mate, (Facebook, college, fixed arrange marriage, pub, disc, common friends, crush, railway stations, air-ports, anywhere else possibly.) In short a random event that entirely depends on your luck, you hit it off with a wrong person, too bad, bad luck, good person, great luck! In short random!   

If everything that actually matters in life is just series of random events, where we contribute hardly or just get lucky?

A goofy painter after several years turn into a monster we know as HITLER, another painter just dies starved. 

The important question is Does it matter who we are? or our life is governed by Where we were?

and that is random, because all meetings are not planned.

Life is just about showing up?

I am definitely on the verge identity crisis, any optimistic approach, do share!